A counselor once told me that there are 4 basic emotions: Happiness, Sadness, Anger, Fear. All of the rest of our emotions are basically just varying degrees or combinations of these four roots (think about it...) The downside of this is that Happiness seems to be the only positive - like Inside Out (which had 5, but it would've worked with 4) Fortunately, Happiness is also the goal for most people. I guess that's why life seems to be an uphill battle, but happy times are worth it, right?
Well, in keeping with my intent to send positive vibes, I came up with a list, (you know I love lists) a list of ways to lift your mood, which in the process will lift the spirits of those around you as well. Being positive is just as contagious as being negative.
- smile - The easiest, yet most powerful thing you can do.
- avoid negative - It's hard to stay positive when surrounded by negative. Walk away if you can, or change friends if necessary.
- take life less seriously - There is a time for seriousness, the rest is up to you. Will it matter in ten years? Will it matter tomorrow?
- laugh at yourself - Gotta start somewhere. Don't waste time, energy, and emotion on getting embarrassed, that's a you only emotion. Others react the same whether you like it or not.
- sing - Who can sing when they're sad or mad? I dare you to try!
- get off the internet - I always sneak this in, even though it's a wonderful tool, we have become addicted and desensitized. And even the funny stuff is usually sarcastic or laughing at others' misfortunes. I wonder how I will preach this lesson to my grandchildren... maybe in a haunted hologram so they will listen. (light bulb - story idea!!) Take a break from it!
- help others - The ultimate way to lift others and yourself
- find the positive - In a dire situation, this is a difficult task. Challenge yourself!
- don't go it alone - You are not the only one who has gone through a tough time. We are here for each other, let others in to help
- pray - The last resort for some that should be the first. The cool breeze on a sunny day, and shelter in a storm.
I ask again - How do you feel today?
And what are you gonna do about it?
And now, here's some news...
I'm surprise highlighting Lexa Cain this week!
She and her publisher are hosting a super fun giveaway! You can win a BLOODWALKER card deck! I love this swag idea! Way to go girl!
Lexa also promotes others by listing free stuff and giveaways weekly in Foxy's Freebies - a wonderful supporter is she!!
I'm surprise highlighting Lexa Cain this week!
She and her publisher are hosting a super fun giveaway! You can win a BLOODWALKER card deck! I love this swag idea! Way to go girl!
Lexa also promotes others by listing free stuff and giveaways weekly in Foxy's Freebies - a wonderful supporter is she!!
Lastly...
A NOTE OF THANKS:
I took a chance with my prayer this past weekend - and I really appreciate all the positive feedback. Thank you! I hope it spreads!
I also appreciate all the support and retweets and shoutouts about my ebook sales the last couple of weeks - Thanks Heaps and Bushels!! Broken Branch Falls and especially Pop Travel soared to the tops of Amazon's Free charts. Gotta love those sub-categories!
I'd also like to thank those who volunteered to help me with reading, reviewing, reveals and releases coming up. Once I devise a new and improved plan of attack for my latest release of CRADLE ROCK, I'll recruit more with a form. It's time to reach more readers than just my supportive writer friends! Take my hand and join me in the bold adventure of marketing!!
And I'm still celebrating my books' bdays by giving away signed copies and swag! Whoever wins has their choice of signed book or swag! And it goes through the end of the month.
Have a PoSiTiVeLY PeRKY week!
16 comments:
Helping others is a great way to take your mind off your own troubles.
Your post yesterday was spot on.
Glad your books did so well!
I can say today I am happy. =) My mom got out of the hospital today and I have the day off to relax (finally.)
Great advice. I tried to keep up the smiling part. It's the easiest and will help pull me out of a funk quickly.
I love a good list, too, and this is a great one. Made me smile...hey, look, I just completed the first item! :)
Go back to the breath. That's what I keep telling myself. Then everything else takes care of itself for a while. Thanks for the post, Tara.
Some great advice here!
I smiled at your list. Turning off the news is important at times. It's all so terrible right now.
Never thought about happy being only 1/4 of our options. I guess we need to try harder. Great list, although I struggle with getting off the internet.
Thanks so much for giving me and my blog such a nice shout out. You're such a sweetie, and your giveaway looks awesome!!
I've been trying to find more happiness lately. Getting off the Internet is a big one, especially these days and all of the politically-charged arguments going on in social media.
Great tips!
The internet is actually a positive for me minus the distractions. Most of my work and book related interactions are online. I have been feeling lethargic lately but what I have to do is press on and I do.Also be positive. Love positivity.
Yes, I definitely need to turn off the Internet for a while. I should make that my plan every week.
Yes, I definitely need to turn off the Internet for a while. I should make that my plan every week.
Lovely post. I especially like the tip of getting off the internet. Too often I used to try cheering myself up by watching comedy videos, then I realized all the sarcasm and self-deprecating humor was actually pinching my nerves rather than soothing them. I always recommend a bouncy pop song, as long as those don't annoy you :-)
What a lovely post! And timely with everything going on in the world. Perfect list, I'd say. I think #7 always makes me feel great. Helping others with no expectations, is one of those things that puts a smile on my (and the person's) face. And praying? Well, always.
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Hey, Tara,
Thanks for the uplifting post! Great list.... you are so right.....
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