Friday, November 14, 2014

Five Reasons to Lower Your Expectations

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Happy Friday! Make sure you Celebrate the Small Things with Vikki and friends with her weekly hop! I don't always have a chance to participate every week, but I'm jumping in today! Here's what I'm celebrating:

  • I love November - my birthday month!
  • I made it through my first week in my new job
  • I had a great time visiting my grandma last weekend and hanging out with Elizabeth Seckman at another a nice little bookfair =)
  • I have gotten some chapters done on Cradle Rock, but as expected, I have slowed down with the start of my new job - hope to get more done this weekend!

And now, I'm very excited to bring new buzz to Broken Branch Falls!

Tonja Drecker at Kidbits is posting a review today (that's something to celebrate too!)

Finally, here are Five reasons to lower your expectations...
  1. Not everyone thinks the same way we do, others have different priorities - don't expect to come first, things that are important to you may not be to others
  2. When you accomplish something, people will be happy for you, but don't expect them to throw you a party because they're secretly jealous
  3. Things go wrong - expect the worst, hope for the best, and do what you can - you'll never be disappointed
  4. Don't expect the bad things in life won't to happen to you. Generalizations apply to everyone:
    • your spouse - we forget things, take each other for granted, and don't always communicate well
    • your kids - they go through the phases
    • your co-workers - they have their own lives and problems you have no idea about
    • and especially ourselves - getting old sucks
  5. We all have bad days - don't expect to save the world, it's okay if not everything you wanted to get done gets done today
Have a great weekend everyone!!


Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Secretly jealous - that's probably true.
Glad you're enjoying your new job. Hope it doesn't mess up your writing.

Optimistic Existentialist said...

I love all of these Tara, especially #1 and #5!! Have a super weekend :)

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Tara - glad the new job is going well; that you saw your grandmother and had time with Elizabeth ..

Happy Birthday month .. always a good time to celebrate ... and adjusting our expectations to others - always a good idea ..

Cheers and you too have a great writing weekend - Hilary

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

Some wisdom in that list. Getting old does suck. Have a good weekend.

Fida Islaih said...

I kind of needed that tough love from the line: lower your expectations. Thank you.

Rachna Chhabria said...

I agree with the secretly jealous part. Low expectations keep the stress levels also low.

Cathrina Constantine said...

Five reasons to lower your expectations--all good! And all so true, at least for me.

I wish I could hang with a writer friend. Glad you had a nice week. A new job can rearrange your time schedule. Good Luck.

The Silver Fox said...

November's my birthday month as well! Happy Birthday, whenever it is!

L. Diane Wolfe said...

I can relate to the last one because usually everything doesn't get done.

Rena said...

Go November birthdays!

Also, I like your slice of perspective, it's really important to keep stuff like that in mind.

Suzanne Furness said...

Happy Birthday, Tara. Congrats on the job and so lovely that you spent time with your Grandma.

SK Anthony said...

November is my birthday month too, I knew I really liked you! lol

Expectations are tough to manage, these are great tips! :)

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Liz A. said...

Have a great weekend, too!

I guess if you're looking to others for your validation, then you should lower your expectations. I think we should expect more from ourselves, though (while being kind to ourselves).

klahanie said...

Hi human, Tara,

Such a fine, grounded, sensible pawsting, um, posting, my fine human friend.

You know I live my life with realistic pawsitive anticipation, rather than negative speculation.

Bad things happen and good things can happen from pawceived bad things.

Pawsitive wishes for a good weekend, to you and all your adoring fans, Tara.

Penny :)

Elizabeth Seckman said...

Seeing you was the best part of the day! And I must say, Grandma does a much better selfie.

I like to dream big, but know that most dreams are made true with sweat, not really help from the people around us. They're all busy working on their own dreams :)

Suzi said...

Sounds like you've been busy. Visiting friends and family and a new job. Hope your second week goes well and even better. :)

DMS said...

Glad the new job is going well! Sounds like you have been busy and you had a fun weekend too! Great reminders. :)

Unknown said...

I love this, Tara. The secretly jealous thing is dead-on. I'm the type that goes above and beyond for my friends, so it seriously stings when I achieve something great and I don't get the same (some of my best friends are like this) but it's good because it teaches me to be a lot less of a "people pleaser" great post!!! :)

Christine Rains said...

What a great post! I hope this week is starting off wonderfully for you. I've got something awesome to show you. Check your email! ;)

Kelly Steel said...

This is a lovely post and yes, so true. Happy Birthday to you.

Unknown said...

Happy Birthday Tara!! What lovely pictures:)
Number 1 has been the hardest for me to cope with in life. But what it comes down to is we don't all think alike and sadly, my giving heart doesn't always get the same kindness back from people. You have to either accept those people and move on with them or learn to just let them go.

Kimberly said...

Happy Birthday to you in your Birthday month!! And yay for making it through your first week on your new job! :)

I have always lived by #3 for the expectations list. :) And I need to embrace #5 more.

Crystal Collier said...

Happy birth month!

I have to remember #5. No one else expects it, but as a mom I believe I should be saving the world. Every. Day. Exhausting right? I'll just retire my cape for a bit of cheese. ;)

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Caryn Caldwell said...

Ooh. So true. Thanks for the dose of reality, and for reminding us that tough things happen but that's normal and we can still persevere.

Gorilla Bananas said...

The other reason not to expect people to throw you a party is that they expect you to throw them a party. If you don't want people to be jealous you've got to spread it around.

H.R. Sinclair said...

Yup, those are all true. I did laugh at number 5 - we try to do it and it almost never works out!

Michelle Wallace said...

Ah, I LOVE those pics!
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Sherry Ellis said...

Glad your new job is going well!

You're right that lowering your expectations makes things easier. It's so hard to do, though!

Vanessa Morgan said...

I think you are so right about lowering your expectations, or even have no expectations at all. I can say from experience that you can work really hard towards something, but the best things (or worst) in life are always unexpected. Happy Thanksgiving.

Jennifer Hawes said...

True words! We tend to think we are the only one with problems etc. We think we should somehow have everything we wish for:) Expect the worst and hope for the best. Agreed!

Leandra Wallace said...

That's a good list, Tara! I can totally relate to the kid phases right now, too. We're in the potty training phase, and I feel like it's never going to happen! He can just wear diapers until he's ten, right? =/

Trisha said...

Great pics of you & your grandmother and you & Elizabeth :) I'm always jealous when I see my fellow writer bloggers meeting each other :D Hope someday that I get to meet a lot of you guys in person as well.

Great list, too. But I feel that I need to start pushing myself harder again, because my self about 3 years ago would be horrified by myself today ;)

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